We all wait for things to get easier….It will never get easier. What happens is, you handle hard stuff better….If you go around waiting for things to get easier in life, it’s never going to happen. Don’t think, “When is it going to be easy for me, like it’s easy for other people?” It’s not; it’s hard for everyone. Make yourself a person who handles hard well, not a person who’s waiting for the easy. If you have a meaningful pursuit in life, it will never be easy. People who handle hard well are the people who get the stuff they want. Don’t get discouraged if it’s hard; it’s supposed to be hard. Make yourself someone who handles hard well, and then, whatever comes at you, you’ll be great. – Kara Lawson, Women’s Basketball Coach, Duke University
I Am Only One
I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do. --Edward Everett Hale
Walls
The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keep out the joy. --Jim Rohn
The Good Wolf
Characteristics of a good wolf:
He prioritizes and protects his own pack.
His stated values are in alignment with those in his pack.
He acts according to his values, with rare exception.
He takes immediate responsibility and makes amends for mistakes.
—Steven R. Hobbs
Food of Addiction
Trauma, pain, fear, lies and isolation are the food that addiction devours to stay alive. --Steven R. Hobbs
Nothing Will Work
“Nothing will work unless you do.” --Maya Angelou
If Pain Were Water
“If pain were water, the world would drown.” —Dennis Prager
5 Behaviors Guaranteed to Increase Happiness: #1 of 5
“Learn to tolerate increased anxiety and stress without acting out.” —Dr. Stephen Marmer; December 22, 2022; The Dennis Prager Show
Pain and Pleasure
“Nothing brings more pain than too much pleasure; nothing more bondage than too much liberty.” --Benjamin Franklin
The Most Difficult Thing
“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.” —Amelia Earhart
Addicts Are
“Addicts are those who use compulsive, obsessive, and destructive behavior to escape pain. This expresses itself in two ways: those overwhelmed because they have been exposed to excessive pain and cannot cope healthfully, and those overwhelmed because they have been sheltered from sufficient pain and cannot cope healthfully.” —Steven R. Hobbs
Don't Experience Pain
“Those who don’t experience pain are also addicts.” —Attributed to Dr. Stephen Marmer