There are two types of people, those who are victims and those who are empowered. The victim focuses on the wrongs he has endured. The empowered focuses on not being a victim. --Steven R. Hobbs
Patience and Time
Patience and time do more than strength or passion. --Jean de La Fontaine
Management and Leadership
Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things. --Peter Drucker
Must and Can't
You must do the things you think you cannot do. --Eleanor Roosevelt
Judgement
Good judgment comes from experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment. --Will Rogers
Shortest Answer
The shortest answer is doing the thing. --Ernest Hemingway.
Hard Work Wins
Hard work wins. You get out of life what you put into it. You cannot control the outcome, but you are one hundred percent in control of the effort. And before you complain about what somebody did to you or said to you, go to the nearest mirror, look at it and say, what could I have done to change the outcome? And no matter how good you are, how hard you work, sooner or later, bad things are gonna happen to you. How you deal with those bad things will tell your mother and me if we raised a man. –Randolph Elder in Dear Father, Dear Son by Larry Elder
Curative
Every brand of psychotherapy regardless of its scientific, fundamental, or philosophical orientation, has converged on the idea that voluntary exposure to challenge is curative. — Jordan Peterson
Preparation
The best preparation for good work tomorrow is to do good work today. --Elbert Hubbard
I Am Only One
I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do. --Edward Everett Hale
Change Your World
Change your thoughts and you change your world. --Norman Vincent Peale
Failure will never overtake me...
Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough. --Og Mandino
Fear and Love
It is better to be feared than loved, if you cannot be both. --Niccolo Machiavelli
No Regrets
People who say, “I have no regrets,” are not telling the truth. They should truthfully say either, “I avoid thinking about my regrets,” or, “I am content with the regrets I have chosen.” Every choice made in life excludes the opportunity for another experience, given the limits of time and resources. If I choose to go to the mountains this weekend, I cannot at the same time go to the beach. While I may prefer the benefits of going to the mountains, I am still missing out on the benefits of going to the beach. I may choose benefits of self employment, but I miss out on the opportunity to have the relative stability of being an employee of someone else. I may choose the benefits of not marrying, but I miss out on the opportunity of experiencing the depth of committed relationships of a spouse and children in a cohesive family. There is a price to be paid for every choice, an opportunity missed for every opportunity taken, a regret to be had for every regret avoided. The best we can do is to choose our regrets wisely. --Steven R. Hobbs
Cannot Do, Can Do
“Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” --John Wooden
I've Failed
“I’ve failed over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed.” --Michael Jordan
Essential Components
Three essential components of psychological health are 1. the ability to openly and honestly communicate thoughts, feelings, and behaviors with another, 2. the ability to honor agreements and disagreements, commonalities and distinctions, and 3. the ability to use personal resources to accomplish values-directed goals. --Steven R. Hobbs
Nothing Will Work
“Nothing will work unless you do.” --Maya Angelou
5 Behaviors Guaranteed to Increase Happiness: #3 of 5
“View yourself as actively capable of making changes in your life, rather than as a passive, helpless victim. Make use of your own agency. Take responsibility for being the architect of much of your own misery, and choose to build success instead.” —Dr. Stephen Marmer; December 9, 2022; The Dennis Prager Show
5 Behaviors Guaranteed to Increase Happiness: #2 of 5
“Keep positive thoughts and perceptions about others, even when they disappoint you.” —Dr. Stephen Marmer; December 9, 2022; The Dennis Prager Show