“View yourself as actively capable of making changes in your life, rather than as a passive, helpless victim. Make use of your own agency. Take responsibility for being the architect of much of your own misery, and choose to build success instead.” —Dr. Stephen Marmer; December 9, 2022; The Dennis Prager Show
May You Live
May you live all the days of your life. -- Jonathan Swift
Breaking Strong
The world breaks everyone, and, afterward, some are strong at the broken places. --Ernest Hemingway
Success, Failure, Courage
Success is not final, failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts. --Winston Churchill
Small Dreams
Dream no small dreams, for they have no power to move the hearts of men. --Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Bad Attitude
“The only disability in life is a bad attitude.” --Scott Hamilton
The Most Difficult Thing
“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.” —Amelia Earhart
Up and Down
“The man who will get up will be helped up; and the man who will not get up will be allowed to stay down.” —Frederick Douglass
Learn from Defeat
“If you learn from defeat, you haven’t really lost.” —Zig Ziglar
Motion and Action
“Never mistake motion for action.” —Ernest Hemmingway
Coming Together
“Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.” —Henry Ford
Difficult Trials
“Difficult trials are merely challenges which most other people will be unwilling or unable to overcome, but which I, with tenacity, resilience, and discipline, will prevail over, thereby earning the rewards envied by many and attained by few. When I come up against a difficulty, I have learned to think, ‘Good. This is an opportunity to move ahead of those less capable and less motivated individuals who will give up, even though I will not.’” —Steven R. Hobbs
A Thousand Miles
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” —Lao Tzu
Struggle and Progress
“If there is no struggle, there is no progress….This struggle may be a moral one, or it may be a physical one, and it may be both moral and physical, but it must be a struggle. Power concedes nothing without a demand. It never did and it never will. Find out just what any people will quietly submit to and you have found out the exact measure of injustice and wrong which will be imposed upon them, and those will continue till they are resisted with either words or blows, or with both. The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress.” —Frederick Douglass, speech at Canandaigua, New York, 1857
Nobility and Superiority
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow men. True nobility lies in being superior to your former self. —Ernest Hemingway
Getting Things Done
“The whole point of getting things done is knowing what to leave undone.” —Oswald Chambers
No Patience
“I no longer have patience with myself for the excuses that I make. However, I’ve learned to forgive myself when I trip over a bump in the road.” —Anonymous in Recovery
Beginners and Experts
“The only difference between a beginner and an expert is how quickly you recover.” —Anonymous 74-year-old man, commenting on his 50+ years of square dancing experience
It is Not the Critic Who Counts
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” —Theodore Roosevelt
Victim Empowered
“A victim is not empowered by the actions of others. A victim is empowered by their own determination to not live as a victim.” —Steven R. Hobbs